What heals the core is introduced in SafeScript. It is "introduced" because only those who hearts have been bruised can decide if their healing is to be complete. They must truly want to go to a different place with their life. They must deeply desire to do relationships better; they must truly want to make changes if the deep places are to be plumbed. The healing of such places in us requires courage to press beyond fear. It requires a new set of decisions. We must choose to heal and grow. We must decide that life is valuable enough to be lived out on its cutting edge. Remaining within the confines of a ruptured soul means that our best efforts will place us only on the frayed edge where the fabric of life remains torn and jagged. Such a wounded place is often a frustrating prison; full of great potential but never fully unlocked; full of dreams and ideas but fraught with frustrations and fears. Healing is about changing the underlying webbing of beliefs from which we operate. The shaming events we are talking about in these pages blight a person's script about themselves, the world and God. Only when the courage and commitment are summonsed to pursue truth into our soulish catacombs can a new script be written and new life and freedom brought forth.
Refer to SafeStories for a look at some who have embraced this journey.
For those who have Brenda's book, Song of Christ, the March 2002, selection on page 34 speaks to the spiritual consequence of a distorted script. _________________________________________________________________________
What then is the script we seek? The script we need?
God's healing script is one of light and truth. The ink of truth penned on parchment of light carries healing for all of God's wounded children. Because we all are wounded in varying degrees, light and truth are the universal principles that enable us to become whole in a fragmented world. These principles are especially powerful instruments for those who carry the wounds of abuse or abandonment in their soul.
"While you have the light, believe in the light, that you may be the children of light." John 12:36 "...But you, believers, are not in darkness...you are all the children of light, and the children of the day: we are not of the night nor of darkness. Therefore let us not sleep as do others, but let us watch and be sober. For they that sleep sleep in the night and they that are drunk are drunk in the night. But let us, who are of the day, be sober..." I Thessalonians 5: 4-8
Satan's great lie is that if we turn off the light in the closet of our soul and lock the door to those painful items stored there they will just go away and we can get on with our life. My refrigerator, over the years, has proved that theory wrong. Things grow in the dark and can fill the whole container with a stench that can ruin it for further use. I've had to throw more than one plastic container away over the years because I could not get the smell out from food that had been left in the cold and darkness for way too long. Shame grows in the darkness of a human soul, and it seals the lethal messages that abuse or abandonment has placed there.
The Scripture above is our roadmap. Anything that lies in darkness in us is not of God, and it will be tinkered with by the "prince of the darkness of this world." We as believers are children of light. We are not of the darkness. It is Satan that rules the darkness. His lie is to get the "children of the day" to live in darkness and keep things tucked away in the night. Those things that have been "tucked away" are the lies and deceptive messages that are always left by soul rupturing events. Truth is light; lies and deception are of darkness. When the light of truth falls upon these shadows in our lives, it begins to dissipate them and to liberate us from the dibilitating tapes that have been deeply anchored in us by the shame and its messages to us about ourselves and others and God. Shame hides in secret places. It thrives in the darkness and will create immensely exaggerated responses whenever light threatens to expose it. Extreme fear or rage or anxiety are common indicators that the monster of shame is fighting to keep itself, and the lies it carries, concealed. For healing to happen, shame must be exposed to the light; yet these responses will be so strong that those with these soulish catacombs cannot overcome them on their own. But they can begin the process...
Shining the Light What is the process of externalizing shame? Of shining the light on what lies in the shadows of our life?
It begins with acknowledging to yourself that something is wrong and seeking to do something about it.
Next, is sharing that possibility with another. This might be a friend or family member. Initial sharing may simply be admitting that things are not working for you as they should. It may progress from there to realizing more details and speaking of that with someone who is safe.
The next step is to find someone skilled in helping people navigate the war zone of abuse or abandonment. Any counselor, including Christian counseling, will not necessarily do. It needs to be someone who understands the dynamics of this kind of wounding and the debris it leaves in a person's life. It needs to be someone who understands the spiritual principles for wholeness and healing and how to apply them to the issues you face.
Aside from counseling, journaling is the greatest single instrument for externalizing what lies hidden in the shadows of your soul and bringing it out to the light. It should be employed with, and guided by, a counselor. Healing from core wounds will not complete itself without the critical tool of journaling.
A support group, skillfully guided, is one of the most powerful facilitators for externalizing shame and releasing its grip in a person's soul. To experience its greatest good, it cannot be a substitute for counseling, but must be in partnership with it. The two, together, are enormously powerful in the healing process.
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"...You will know the truth, and the truth will make you free." John 8:32
Truth is God's most powerful principle for healing.
Since truth liberates the human soul, wherever we are in bondage it is because we are believing something to be true that is not true. Truth is the casuality of childhood abuse and abandonment. These soulish villians embed in our script with false beliefs that condition our automatic responses and dictate our emotions. Our emotions do not automatically register truth; they register our perceptions of truth. As children, we do not have a truth filter that sorts through the messages and discards the lies. If a person, or event, gives a powerful message to a child, that child will receive it as true. It then embeds in our soul and becomes part of the internalized script that acts itself out on the stage of our life.
Sorting through the code of abuse to find the enemy's intent and battle plans is the challenge of our healing. In the Bible, the Lord supplies us with the Code Book. With the Holy Spirit we are given the power to interpret the code and translate it into truth in our lives.
For additional information go to Soul Matterssub-menu page Strongholds.